The Private Journal of Family Changes

When things are changing at home, older kids often carry it quietly. The Private Journal of Family Changes is a private journal for kids ages 9 to 12 whose parents or caregivers are separating, divorcing or living apart. It belongs to the child, not the adult who gives it. Every page is optional, and nothing asks them to choose between the people they care about.

The 104 pages hold more than 80 guided prompts, drawing pages and activities, with over 180 places to write, draw, check or circle.

Inside:

• Pages on what's changing and on feelings
• Why it isn't their fault, including a page on the "if only" thought
• Family-change words explained, such as custody and parenting plan
• Words to borrow for friends, teachers and tricky questions
• Pages for two homes or one, switch days, new people and holidays
• A help page that shows them how to reach a trusted adult

At the back is a short guide for grown-ups, with help lines and a privacy promise to sign together. After that, it's theirs to fill in at their own pace.

For a younger brother or sister, The Kids' Journal of Family Changes covers ages 6 to 10. Both journals pair with the picture book The Kids' Book of Family Changes.